2008 Woodie Awards
Being honest beats lying
Katrina Gregor
Issue date: 10/18/07 Section: Opinions
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Is it OK to follow up on a lie?
Ladies and gentlemen, where is the line drawn between the truth and a lie, and how do you go about finding which is which?
For instance; your boyfriend/girlfriend tells you a plausible - but not probable - story regarding their weekend and why you haven't heard from them in a week.
The story is so intense, that to question it makes you look like an ass. But your intuition tells you it's bulls--t. What do you do?
Pretend you trust in "ideal situation(s)" or find truth in what is probably a lie.
No one has a problem when questioning the truth - it brings people closer, and they share moments and memories. The truth has nothing to hide, nor do the people who speak it.
But good liars fabricate such fantastic stories, that to question them makes the person finding fault in the "facts" a psycho.
Is it a lie or the truth?
Let's say this significant other was the kind of person you'd get a call from should the world be ending or if they had a flat tire, or because they were just missing you.
So taking this into consideration, do you send their grandmother a plant when they "say" they were in the hospital with (fill-in-the-blank)?
Was she sick or was it too much boozing that led to not remembering what they may or "may not have done" that they are hiding from you, just calling now, one week later. Possible, but not probable?
When intuition tells you something, is it because your boy/girlfriend is lying or because you're scared and scarred from being lied to?
So ladies and gents, who knows what is the truth and what is a lie? But what we do know is, trust is everything, and once it's broken, more lies won't fix it. So try the truth next time.
Even when you don't want to tell the truth - because you feel guilty, because it could hurt someone, because sometimes it just sucks - the truth allows you discussion, allows openness and a chance for true emotions to rise up, and at times, be subdued in faith and trust.
And in the case of the grandma: We'd send the plant.
Ladies and gentlemen, where is the line drawn between the truth and a lie, and how do you go about finding which is which?
For instance; your boyfriend/girlfriend tells you a plausible - but not probable - story regarding their weekend and why you haven't heard from them in a week.
The story is so intense, that to question it makes you look like an ass. But your intuition tells you it's bulls--t. What do you do?
Pretend you trust in "ideal situation(s)" or find truth in what is probably a lie.
No one has a problem when questioning the truth - it brings people closer, and they share moments and memories. The truth has nothing to hide, nor do the people who speak it.
But good liars fabricate such fantastic stories, that to question them makes the person finding fault in the "facts" a psycho.
Is it a lie or the truth?
Let's say this significant other was the kind of person you'd get a call from should the world be ending or if they had a flat tire, or because they were just missing you.
So taking this into consideration, do you send their grandmother a plant when they "say" they were in the hospital with (fill-in-the-blank)?
Was she sick or was it too much boozing that led to not remembering what they may or "may not have done" that they are hiding from you, just calling now, one week later. Possible, but not probable?
When intuition tells you something, is it because your boy/girlfriend is lying or because you're scared and scarred from being lied to?
So ladies and gents, who knows what is the truth and what is a lie? But what we do know is, trust is everything, and once it's broken, more lies won't fix it. So try the truth next time.
Even when you don't want to tell the truth - because you feel guilty, because it could hurt someone, because sometimes it just sucks - the truth allows you discussion, allows openness and a chance for true emotions to rise up, and at times, be subdued in faith and trust.
And in the case of the grandma: We'd send the plant.