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Crisp weather brings cozy ideas
By Cassie Swanson
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Monday, October 27, 2003
Cassie Swanson -- Staff Essay
A quick cautionary note:� this staff essay contains lots of whining and is from a single girl's perspective - be warned!
�The leaves are turning, the air is crisp and it is the perfect time to snuggle up with your boyfriend. Hmmm...this poses quite a problem when you don't have one! After talking with a few of my roommates, we decided that there is a severe shortage of unattached, quality males. In Minnesota, the ratio between males and females is even; unfortunately, it doesn't seem to be holding true in St. Cloud.
In fact, just last night, one of my roommates went to the bar and in desperation for male companionship (and a bit of intoxication), made out with a random fella on the dance floor most of the night. When she got home, couldn't even remember what he looked like. We would prefer that this sort of "Sex in the City" behavior doesn't become a staple for weekend fun, but it is leaning more toward that. The sad part of the story is that she would have been content to just sit in a corner and chat, but he didn't even care that much. All he wanted was a make-out buddy.
Now there are people out there with his school of thought in both genders, but I have to wonder, at this age, are there guys out there that are searching for "the one?" Maybe it is just another one of those gender role differences. For the most part, guys have other things on their minds right now, not in relation to marriage.
As a female in her prime, I find myself checking out wedding rings while I ring up people's groceries at the grocery store I work at. I just discovered this the other day, and I have to say I find it to be quite an odd habit. But, it fulfills my incessant need to dream about my wedding, marriage and inevitably, my future. I have always done that, but in recent years it has gotten worse. I certainly can't completely blame the biological clock because I am only 21, but I do think it plays a part.
Another key factor is that I graduate this year and there is a sort of uneasy insecurity that surrounds this time as I plan on where to apply for jobs, what career I am looking for and even what state to be in. I came here from Illinois and that was the first time I had been away from home. I made all new friends and it took about a year before I felt like myself again - ridiculously busy, working a lot and just being content. I am not sure if I am up for that sort of challenge again. With the occupation I am looking at though, the opportunities are few and far between and scattered across the states. Everyone tells me that I should be grateful that I don't have anything tying me down, keeping me in one place or another, but really it is such a hindrance. If I had something or someone keeping me stationary, it would make my decision that much easier - one less factor to worry about.
I really shouldn't waste my time worrying about this because I know that where I am supposed to be will eventually blossom in opportunity, but the waiting is the irritating part. I have become incredibly impatient as the year has flown by and an unsettling feeling has made its home in the pit of my stomach. And I am sorry guys, you are one of the main contributors to that inhabitance - just kidding. In all actuality, it would just be helpful to know where my life was going and incorporating a mate in that would lighten the load a bit. And I don't think that I am the only female that feels this way.
I guess I should have extended the warning at the beginning for all males: BEWARE, the weather has encouraged women to be on the lookout for potential victims for marriage. Run! As the blustery weather settles in for a few months, grab your Columbia jacket and gloves and hibernate or run the risk of being snatched up by marriage-minded females! There will be a brief period toward the end of February/ early March in which you might be safe, but then watch out for spring because love will be in the air!
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